Do you know your love language? Love language is based on the idea that there are certain ways (broken down into 5 categories) in which we show love to our spouse or dating partner and because of that, we expect love to be shown back to us in those same ways. Obviously if we and our spouse/dating partner don't show and expect the same things, this can lead to conflict. The 5 basic love languages are being widely used by counselors to help couples understand each other and see areas where they are compatible or different in how they show love to each other. Go through the following pairs of statements and choose ONE of the statements which best describe you. Remember to only check ONE box per pair. 1. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you I like it when you hug me 2. I like to spend one-to-one time with you I feel loved when you give practical help to me 3. I like it when you give me gifts I like taking long walks with you 4. I feel loved when you do things to help me I feel loved when you touch me 5. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms I feel loved when I receive a gift from you 6. I like to go places with you I like to hold hands with you 7. Visible signs of love (gifts) are very important to me I feel loved when you affirm me 8. I like to sit close to you I like for you to tell me I am attractive/handsome 9. I like to spend time with you I like to receive little gifts from you 10. Your words of acceptance are important to me I know you love me when you help me 11. I like to be together when we do things I like the kind words you say to me 12. What you do affects me more than what you say I feel whole when we hug 13. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism Several inexpensive gifts from you mean more to me than one large gift 14. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together I feel closer to you when you touch me often 15. I like for you to compliment my achievements I know you love me when you do things for me that you don't enjoy doing 16. I like for you to touch me when you walk by I like it when you listen to me sympathetically 17. I feel loved when you help me with my jobs around the house I really enjoy receiving gifts from you 18. I like for you compliment my appearance I feel loved when you take time to understand my feelings 19. I feel secure when you are touching me Your acts of service make me feel loved 20. I appreciate the many things you do for me I like receiving gifts that you make 21. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me 22. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken) 23. I know you thinking of me when you give me a gift I feel loved when you help out with my chores 24. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don't interrupt me I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift 25. I like to know you are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks I enjoy extended trips with you 26. Kissing me unexpectedly excites me Giving me a gift for no special occasion excites me 27. I like to be told that you appreciate me I like for you to look at me when we're talking 28. Your gifts are always special to me I feel good when you are touching me 29. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do some task I have requested I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me 30. I need to be touched every day I need your words of affirmation daily